Ever felt fed up or overwhelmed? If you want some simple self care tips to help you feel fab to help you to relax, re-charge and re-set by taking some time out to make yourself feel fab, you are going to love our guest blog post by Anne Goldsmith, Positive Behaviour Consultant and Parenting Coach of Behaviour First Consultancy :
Often when our work and personal life are busy, we can feel overwhelmed and unappreciated. When this happens to me, at those times, I am grumpy, disorganised and snappy with others.
I know that despite being busy, having lots to do and deadlines to meet, this is the time when I have to stop, take time away and take time out for myself, to ensure my needs are met, because I know, if I’m being honest, that I’m not being productive or doing anything effectively.
Once I listen to what I need, I take the time to prioritise me, re-charge, re-focus, relax and re-set. Then I’m ready to take on the world again!
Self care helps you feel fab
I have a regular ‘daily’ routine of things that keep me feeling positive and uplifted – these are the things that work for me such as walks in nature. Many of the things that help me to feel good are part of my daily routine and in my diary, like a business meeting or appointment. This ensures that I do them, because they are planned into my routine.
I do this at least four times a week and I will say it’s one of my main go-to activities to keep me feeling positive, great and focused. I often say, “It’s what keeps me sane.” I notice at times when I’m unable to exercise for whatever reason, that’s when I start to generally feel miserable or negative.
I meditate every day, twice a day for 20 minutes and I have done for 20 years now. I start my day at 5.30 am – 5.45 am by meditating and it sets me up for the day. It’s something that is part of my daily routine – it’s the first thing I do EVERY day.
Acknowledging Gratitude –
I spend time most days writing down the things that I’m grateful for in my life. It makes me focus on everything thing I have instead of what might be lacking in my life or what I might think is lacking. This reminds me of how lucky I am, how good my life is and then any issue I face never seems that bad. I put it into perspective. Growing up, my mum always used to say “There’s always someone worse off than yourself.” We grew up with very little. This has stayed with me and reminded me that whatever is happening in my life – it could be worse!
Focus on my Achievements –
I often take the time – especially if times are tough, to sit down and write down how much I have achieved in the past 12 months. I write down everything – no matter how big or small. People often say to me, “Can’t you just think about it? You don’t need to write it down.” Now, that’s true. Yes I can. The act of physically writing it down and then reading it back, reminds me of how far I have come and how much I have achieved. Despite thinking about how much I have achieved and knowing it, whenever I write it down, I am always pleasantly surprised at how much I really have achieved.
Listen to Music and Sing Along to Music –
I love a good old sing along to my favourite music. I’m often in the car, cooking in the kitchen or doing the housework with my music blaring out as loud as possible and I literally sing my heart out. Can I sing? It doesn’t matter! I love it! It brings me joy and makes me feel good! It makes me happy! That’s what’s important. That’s what matters. My 16 year old son and 13 year old daughter often complain my music is too loud! I acknowledge their comments and explain that I’m in my own space having fun. I also remind them that in a few years’ time, I’m sure we’ll be having the conversation in reverse!
Help Someone Else –
When we focus our attention on genuinely and selflessly helping others, it is a positive act and without realising we feel better too.
It might sound silly or strange. However, smiling lifts us up and those around us too. If you make a conscious effort to smile at others, notice the difference in how they respond to you and the positive effect it has on how you feel too. If you know me, you will know that I have a big smile – in fact I find it difficult not to smile and to be honest, I don’t want to either – I love smiling.
Recent studies have published findings that “…smiling helps reduce the body’s response to stress and lower heart rate in tense situations;” another study linked smiling to “…lower blood pressure,” while yet, another suggests that “…smiling leads to longevity.” New research in April 2019 has shown that “…smiling has the power to make people feel happier.” If you think about it, you don’t need the research, you know how you feel when someone smiles at you or you smile at others.
I take the time to do things and to watch things that make me laugh. Like smiling, it makes you and others feel good and just reminds us that sometimes we can relax and not take everything so seriously.
Take Time Out for Myself –
I make sure that I regularly take time out for myself. Having me-time and consciously focusing on my own self-care makes me feel good and keeps me feeling happy, positive and appreciated. I spend so much quality time with my teenagers, making sure they are happy and their needs are met and also my husband, my mum, my in-laws, my friends and my clients. I wouldn’t have it any other way. That’s what I love doing and part of who I am. If I didn’t make a conscious effort and decision to ensure my self-care is a priority, it would make caring for others difficult and cause problems.
Other Simple Self Care Tips to Help You Feel Fab –
Some of the things that I do are spending time with my friends, exercising, shopping, watching TV, reading, soaking in the bath, sunbathing, just taking some time to simply be and simply be on my own…
I’m sharing with you some of my go-to activities that bring me joy, lift my mood and make me feel happy and fulfilled. I choose the things that work for me depending on how I’m feeling at that time, which can vary. On one occasion I might want to exercise, yet on another, I might prefer to simply ‘zone out’ and just watch some ‘escapism’ TV that just requires me to sit, watch and not think.
Everyone is different and what makes us tick is different, what we enjoy and what brings us joy – that’s a good thing.
If you are feeling low, experiencing stress and a sense of overwhelm, maybe some of my tips will help you to feel better, lift your mood and to feel more positive.
Thank you Anne for sharing your tips. For more articles on simple ways to feel fab naturally, please look through this blog and check out my Facebook page:
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